How to Do the Work

Name: How to Do the Work
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ISBN: 9780063012103

Recognize Your Patterns, Heal from Your Past, and Create Your Self

By Nicole LePera

Nicole LePera presents a self-directed approach to healing that weaves together neuroscience, attachment theory, and somatic practice. Moving from the conscious self and trauma body through ego stories, trauma bonds, and the inner child, each chapter builds a clearer picture of how childhood conditioning becomes the invisible operating system of adult behavior. The book provides concrete practices for reparenting, setting boundaries, developing emotional maturity, and moving from codependency toward genuine interdependence.

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Concepts

Trauma Body
The way unprocessed emotional experiences are stored as physical tension and automatic nervous-system responses, making somatic awareness essential to healing rather than optional.
Ego Stories
The habitual narratives the mind constructs about who you are and what the world owes you, rooted in childhood wounds, that drive unconscious emotional reactions in adult life.
Inner Child
The part of the psyche carrying unmet childhood needs and early emotional wounds, whose unrecognized influence surfaces as adult patterns of fear, reactivity, and compulsive attachment.
Reparenting
Intentionally giving yourself the emotional attunement, consistency, and safety you did not receive from caregivers — building a secure relationship with yourself from the inside out.
Trauma Bonds
Attachments formed in cycles of harm and repair, often originating in early life, that create compulsive attraction to dynamics that recreate the original wound rather than heal it.

Chapters

Preface. Dark Night of the Soul
Introduction. A Primer on Holistic Psychology
Chapter 1. You Are Your Own Best Healer
Chapter 2. The Conscious Self - Becoming Aware
Chapter 3. A New Theory of Trauma
Chapter 4. Trauma Body
Chapter 5. Mind-Body Healing Practises
Chapter 6. The Poer of Belief
Chapter 7. Meet Your Inner Child
Chapter 8. Ego Stories
Chapter 9. Trauma Bonds
Chapter 10. Boundaries
Chapter 11. Reparenting
Chapter 12. Emotional Maturity
Chapter 13. Interdependence
Epilogue. The Pizza Box
Acknowledgements

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Topics

Holistic Psychology, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Emotional Avoidance, Childhood Conditioning, Conscious-Self, Subconscious-Self, Neuroplasticity, Healing, Trauma, Boundaries, Maladaptive Coping Strategies, People Pleasing, Dissociation, Polyvagal Theory, Fight-Flight-Freeze, Co-Regulation, Emotional Addiction, Mind-Body Healing, Confirmation Bias, Reticular Activating System, Attachment Theory, Secure Attachment, Anxious Preoccupied, Dismissive Avoidant, Fearful Avoidant, Inner Child, Caretaker, Overachiever, Rescuer, Hero Worshipper, Trauma Bonds, Enmeshment, Emotional Dumping, Reparenting, Emotional Maturity, Meditation, Interdependence, Mind-Body-Soul Connection, Nocebo Effect, Monkey Mind, Homeostatic Impulse, Self-Awareness, Dissociation, Childhood Conditioning, Maladaptive Coping Strategies, People Pleasing, Trauma Body, Allostasis, Emotional Addiction, Mind-Body Healing, Enteric Nervous System, Reticular Activating System, Confirmation Bias, Caretaker, Overachiever, Underachiever, Rescuer, Protectors, Life of Party, Yes Person, Hero Worshipper, Ego Stories, Ego Activation, Ego Projections, Ego Consciousness, Trauma Bonding, Authentic Love, Parent Figure, Enmeshment, Rigid Boundaries, Loose Boundaries, Flexible Boundaries, Physical Boundary, Resource Boundary, Mental Boundary, Emotional Boundary, Emotional Dumping, Emotional Immaturity, Emotional Maturity, Emotional Regulation, Loving Discipline, Self-Care, The Work, Ninety-Second Rule, Body Connection Meditation

Published

March 9, 2021

Publisher

HarperCollins

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