From Triggered to Tranquil
How Self-Compassion and Mindful Presence Can Transform Relationship Conflicts and Heal Childhood Wounds
By Susan Campbell
Concepts
- Trigger Work
- A five-step process (notice, accept, pause, be with sensations, repair) for moving from reactive patterns to self-awareness and restored connection.
- Trigger Signature
- Your unique, personal pattern of early warning signs — body sensations, thoughts, emotions — that signal you are becoming triggered before full reactivity sets in.
- Cotriggering
- The dynamic where one partner's reactive behavior activates the other's, creating an escalating cycle in which both feel like the victim.
- Compassionate Self-Inquiry
- A mindfulness-based practice of investigating your triggered state with curiosity and self-compassion rather than judgment, to uncover the core fear beneath the reaction.
- Unilateral Repair
- Taking steps to restore connection and clear the air even when the other person has not apologized or acknowledged their role in the conflict.
Chapters
- Introduction. Triggers, Trauma, and Trigger Work - The Path to Self-Healing
- Part 1. Practices For Transforming Reactivity
- Chapter 1. Getting from Here to There - The Five Steps of Trigger Work
- Chapter 2. Admitting and Accepting Your Insecurities - Getting Beyond Shame and Blame
- Chapter 3. Learning Your Unique Trigger Signature - Catching the Early Warning Signs
- Chapter 4. Pausing to Regulate Yourself - Restoring an Inner Sense of Safety
- Chapter 5. Being with Sensations and Emotions - Becoming a Spacious, Loving Presence
- Chapter 6. Repairing and Clearing the Air - Restoring Connection with Others
- Part 2. Applying The Practices In Relationships
- Chapter 7. I'm Triggered with My Intimate Partner
- Chapter 8. I'm Triggered with My Kids
- Chapter 9. I'm Triggered with My Friend
- Chapter 10. I'm Triggered in a Group or Meeting
- Chapter 11. I'm Leading a Group, and Someone Gets Triggered
- Chapter 12. I'm Triggered by the World Situation
- Conclusion
Rating
Topics
- Triggers, Self-Compassion, Self-Healing, Self-Calming, Self-Empathy, Self-Knowledge, Mindful Presence, Mindfulness, Relationship Conflicts, Childhood Wounds, Compassionate Self-Inquiry, Trigger Work, Whole-Making, Shadow Work, Attachment Trauma, Shock Trauma, Developmental Trauma, Trigger Reactions, Trauma Reactions, Co-Regulation, Reactivity, Trigger Signature, Core Fears, Attachment Theory, Anxious Attachment, Avoidant Attachment, Insecurities, Survival Alarm System, Amygdala, Trigger Signature, Fight-Flight-Freeze, Judgemental Thoughts, Reactive Story, Reactive Feelings, Body Sensations, Attachment Needs, Inner Child, Self-Inquiry, Cotriggering, Repair Statement, Reassuring Response, Unilateral Repair, Pause Agreement, Boundaries
Published
- August 31, 2021
Publisher
- New World Library