Facing Love Addiction
Giving Yourself the Power to Change the Way You Love
By Pia Mellody,Andrea Wells Miller,J. Keith Miller
Concepts
- Love Addiction
- A compulsive pattern of seeking intensity, fantasy, and enmeshment in romantic relationships as a way to escape underlying childhood wounds and feelings of emptiness.
- Love Avoidant
- The typical partner of a love addict; someone who simultaneously craves intimacy and fears it, withdrawing as closeness increases and often re-engaging only when a partner threatens to leave.
- Co-Addicted Relationship
- The self-sustaining dynamic formed when a love addict and love avoidant pair, in which each person's pattern activates and reinforces the other's.
- Emotional Cycles
- The predictable internal arc each style follows in a relationship — the love addict's escalating need and subsequent crash, and the avoidant's cycles of approach and distancing.
- Reparenting
- The recovery process of giving yourself the care, limits, and emotional attunement that were missing in childhood, as a foundation for healthier adult relationships.
Chapters
- Introduction
- Part 1. Love Addicts and Their Relationships
- Chapter 1. Separating Codependence from Love Addiction
- Chapter 2. The Characteristics of the Love Addict
- Chapter 3. The Emotional Cycles of the Love Addict
- Chapter 4. The Partners Love Addicts Choose - Characteristics of the Love Avoidant
- Chapter 5. The Emotional Cycles of the Love Avoidant
- Chapter 6. When Love Addicts Meet Love Avoidtants - The Characteristics of Co-Addicted Relationships
- Part 2. The Recovery Process
- Chapter 7. What to Do About Your Co-Addicted Relationship
- Chapter 8. Putting the Relationship on Hold
- Chapter 9. Withdrawing from Love Addiction
- Chapter 10. Treating the Symptoms of Codependence
- Chapter 11. Entering or Reentering a Relationship
- Part 3. A Healthy Relationship
- Chapter 12. Marks of a Healthy Relationship
- Chapter 13. Unrealistic Expectations
- Part 4. Journaling Exercises For Recovery
- Chapter 14. Journaling Exercises for Facing Love Addiction
- Chapter 15. Writing a Step One for Love Addiction
- Chapter 16. Writing a Step Four to Love Addiction
- Chapter 17. Journaling Exercises for the Love Avoidant
- Conclusion. Personal Recovery
- Appendix. A Look at Some of the Psyschological Litarature Regarding Love Addiction
Rating
Topics
- Love Addiction, Love Addict, Love Avoidant, Codependency, Codependent, Negative Control, Resentment, Impaired Spirituality, Unrealistic Expectations, Realistic Expectations, Unconditional Positive Regard, Co-addicted Tango, Pursue-Withdraw Trap, Addiction, Helplessness, Emotional Cycles, Negatice Intensity, Positive Intensity, Distancing Techniques, Evading Intensity, Healthy Boundaries, Emotional Walls, Enmeshment, Proper Bonding, Childhood Fantasy, Childhood Wounds, Addictive Cycle, Love Bombing, Growing Up, Facing Reality, Grieving Loses, Reparent Yourself, Forgiveness, Distorted Thinking, Physical Intimacy, Emotional Intimacy, Sexual Intimacy, Healthy Relatiobship, Self-Love, Self-Protection, Self-Identification, Self-Care, Self-Containment, Personal Growth, Adult Ego State, Clear Communication, Personal Inventory
Published
- November 22, 2011
Publisher
- Harper Collins
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