Concepts
- Five A's
- David Richo's five qualities of mature love: attention, acceptance, appreciation, affection, and allowing — both what healthy relationships provide and what adults learn to give themselves.
- Unconditional Presence
- Being fully available — emotionally, physically, and spiritually — to a partner without trying to fix, change, or evaluate their experience.
- Fear-Attachment-Control-Entitlement (FACE)
- The four ego-driven tendencies that block intimacy: operating from fear, seeking control, emotional attachment to outcomes, and a sense of entitlement.
- Heroic Journey
- Richo's framing of intimate relationships as a path of growth that requires facing your fears, grieving losses from the past, and developing genuine emotional maturity.
- Addressing-Processing-Resolving
- A three-part approach to working through conflicts that moves from naming the issue to exploring feelings to finding a resolution that honors both partners.
Chapters
- Introduction
- Part 1. How It All Began
- The Power of Mindfulness
- A Positive Spin no How It Was and Is
- The Five A's - The Keys That Open Us
- Unconditional Presence versue the Five Mindsets of Ego
- Practices
- Part 2. Love And Less
- When We Deny We Were Deprived
- What Hurts Us Comforts Us
- How Good for me Was My Family?
- Light on the Hurt
- A Heroic Journey
- Practices
- Part 3. Finding A Partner
- Am I Cut Out for Close, Intimate Relationships?
- Qualified Candidates for Relationships
- What Are We Up To?
- Full Disclosure
- Sexualizing Our Needs
- Our Lognings
- Destiny Plays A Part
- Practices
- Part 4. High Romance
- Rising in Love
- When Romance Is Addictive
- What Love Feels Like
- Practices
- Part 5. When Conflicts Arise
- Working Things Out
- The Past in the Present
- Introvert or Extraver?
- Healthy Anger
- Practices
- Part 6. Fears Rush In - And Dangers, Too
- Engulfment and Abandonment
- Learning from Our Fears
- Jealousy
- Infidelity
- Dealing with Disapointment
- Practices
- Part 7. letting Go Of Ego
- Anatomy of the Arragant Ego
- Anatomy of the Impoverished Ego
- Saying Yes to the Things We Cannot Change
- Practices
- Part 8. Our Commitment And How It Deepens
- What Love Says
- An Enduring Bond
- Practices
- Part 9. When Relationships End
- Moving On With Grace
- When Somebody Leaves
- Epilogue
- Appendix. The Steps and Shifts of Mindful Grief
Rating
Topics
- Relationships, Mindfulness, Attention, Acceptance, Appreciation, Affection, Allowing, Unconditional Presence, Mindful Love, Loving-Kindness, Daily Meditation, Letting Go of Control, Opening Up To Feedback, Heartful Communication, Attending to Needs, Feeling Loved, Offering Support, Noticing Mindsets, Heroic Journey, Mirroring, Adult Seeking, Facing Our Options, Refusing Abuse, Reversing Messages, Being Aware, Finding The Holes, Witnessing The Pain, Locating The Pearl, Grieving The Past, Our Longings, Doing The Work, Comparing Wishes, Sexual Inventory, High Romance, Lovely Present, Expressing Intimacy, Addressing-Procesing-Resolving, Introvert, Extrovert, Healthy Anger, Navigating Resentment, Finding Center, Sering Clearly, Fear of Engulfment, Fear of Abandonment, Infidelity, Welcoming Closeness, Being Alone, Arrogant Ego, Self-Centeredness, Entitlement, Fear-Attachment-Control-Entitlement, Impoverished Ego, Saying Yes, Going Beyond Either/Or, Committing To Nonviolent Love, Letting Go, Dropping Pretense, Increasing Compassion, Building Self-Esteem, Being Fully Present, Enduring Bond, Affirming Yourself, Personal Standards, Separation, Compassion, Forgiveness, Mindful Grief
Published
- November 2, 2021
Publisher
- Shambhala Publications