Hold Me Tight

Name: Hold Me Tight
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ISBN: 9780316113014

Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love

By Sue Johnson

Grounded in Emotionally Focused Therapy and attachment science, Sue Johnson reframes relationship conflict as a signal of disconnection rather than incompatibility. She guides couples through seven structured conversations—from recognizing destructive "Demon Dialogues" and uncovering raw emotional spots to forgiving past injuries and deepening physical intimacy. The book shows how partners can become a secure base for each other, and includes a final section on using that bond to heal trauma and face life's challenges together.

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Quotes

Love is not the icing on the cake of life. It is the basic primary need like oxygen or water. Once we understand and accept this, we canmore easily get to the heart of relationship problems.

Concepts

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
The attachment-based couples therapy model developed by Sue Johnson, on which the book's seven conversations are directly based, targeting emotional disconnection as the root of relationship problems.
Demon Dialogues
The three destructive conflict cycles EFT identifies—Find the Bad Guy, the Protest Polka, and Freeze and Flee—that couples loop through when they feel emotionally unsafe with each other.
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Raw Spots
Hypersensitive emotional wounds, often rooted in past experiences, that get triggered by a partner's actions and instantly escalate the emotional temperature of an interaction.
Secure Base
The attachment function a partner provides when they are a reliable source of comfort and support, enabling both people to explore the world and face challenges with greater confidence.

Chapters

Introduction
Part 1. A New Light On Love
Love - A Revolutionary New View
Where Did Our Loe Go? Losing Connection
Emotional Responsiveness - The Key To A Lifetime Of Love
Part 2. Seven Transforming Conversations
Conversation 1. Recognizing The Demon Dialogues
Conversation 2. Finding The Raw Spots
Conversation 3. Revisiting A Rocky Moment
Conversation 4. Hold Me TIght - Engaging And Connecting
Conversation 5. Forgiving Injuries
Conversation 6. Bonding Through Sex And Touch
Conversation 7. Keeping Your Love Alive
Part 3. The Power Of Hold Me Tight
Healing Traumatic Wounds - The Power Of Love
Ultimate Connection - Love As The Final Frontier
Acknowledgments
Glossary
References