Reset Your Romantic GPS

Name: Reset Your Romantic GPS
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ISBN: 9798588257466

Why You Steer Toward The Wrong Partners, And How To Change Direction For The Better

By Marc Sholes

Marc Sholes examines how attachment styles formed in early childhood continue to shape adult romantic choices, often without conscious awareness. The book explains how insecure patterns drive people toward partners and dynamics that feel familiar but are ultimately unsatisfying, and covers how imprinting and the subconscious mind influence attraction. Practical steps — including body-based practices, self-awareness exercises, and mindful communication — help readers understand their patterns and shift toward more secure ways of relating.

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Concepts

Romantic GPS
Sholes's metaphor for the unconscious attraction system that steers people toward familiar relational dynamics based on early imprinting, often regardless of whether those dynamics are healthy.
Imprinting
The process by which early attachment experiences with caregivers create a deep template that the brain later uses as a reference point for what love, safety, and intimacy feel like.
Attraction to Insecurity
The uncomfortable finding that insecure attachment styles are drawn to partners and dynamics that feel familiar rather than healthy, recreating childhood emotional landscapes in adult relationships.
Trifecta of Connectedness
Sholes's self-awareness framework for examining the body, mind, and relational behavior together as an integrated system for personal change rather than treating them separately.

Chapters

Preface. A Little About Me
Introduction
Part 1. Learning About The Patterns we Operate By
Chapter 1. Attachment Style - The Big Idea
Chapter 2. What Does Attachment Style Do?
Chapter 3. Why You Want To Fix An Unhealthy Attachment
Chapter 4. Why Relationships - Consequences of Unhealthy Attachments
Chapter 5. Repairing An Unhealthy Attachment Style - What's In It For Me?
Part 2. How Attachment Styles Work
Chapter 6. Imprinting
Chapter 7. The Big Guy
Chapter 8. The Power Of The Subconscious
Chapter 9. Types Of Attachment Styles
Chapter 10. Healthy (Secure) Attachment Style
Chapter 11. Unhealthy (Insecure) Attachment Style
Chapter 12. How An Unhealthy Attachment Style Manifests In Romance
Chapter 13. Compensation
Chapter 14. Who To Blame - No One, Sort Of
Part 3. Seeking A New Home
Chapter 15. Idea One - Improvement Feels Scary
Chapter 16. Idea Two - Get Ready To Grieve
Part 4. How To Fix Your Insecure Attachment Style
Chapter 17. Turning Me Right Round / Do You Remember LP's
Chapter 18. The Body
Chapter 18a. Exercise
Chapter 18b. Sleep
Chapter 18c. Diet
Chapter 19. The Mind
Chapter 19a. The Importance of Self-Awareness
Chapter 19b. Me, Myself, and I / Trifecta of Connectedness
Chapter 19c. Meet Your Mind
Part 5. Choices
Chapter 20. The Pepperoni Project
Chapter 21. The Pull Of The Trigger
Chapter 22. Cravings
Chapter 23. The Big Shift
Chapter 24. Take A Different Road
Part 6. Being With Others
Chapter 25. Listening
Chapter 26. Listen Up
Chapter 27. Mindful Conversing
Chapter 28. Never Worry Alone
Conclusion
About The Author