The Love Fix

Repair and Restore Your Relationship Right Now
By Tara Fields

Tara Fields organizes couples' recurring conflicts into five relationship patterns—the Parent Trap, Come Close/Go Away, the Blame Game, Testing behaviors, and growing apart—and provides a structured approach for each. Drawing on two decades of clinical work, she helps partners look beneath the surface content of arguments to the fears and unmet needs that actually drive them. The book includes self-assessment tools, quick exercises for immediate change, and guidance on rebuilding trust after an affair alongside longer-term repair practices.

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Concepts
  • The Parent Trap
    A relationship pattern where one partner assumes a parental role and the other regresses into dependence, eliminating equal partnership and eroding attraction.
  • Come Close/Go Away
    An intimacy pattern driven by simultaneous fears of abandonment and engulfment, in which partners alternately pursue and withdraw, keeping real closeness just out of reach.
  • The Blame Game
    A shame-driven cycle in which both partners deflect responsibility onto each other, preventing either from accessing the underlying fear or need that is actually driving the conflict.
  • Profound Trust
    Fields's term for the deep relational safety that develops when partners consistently keep their word, repair breaches honestly, and demonstrate that vulnerability will not be used against them.
Chapters
  • Introduction
  • Chapter 1. How Did We Get Here?
  • Chapter 2. How Can We Change?
  • Chapter 3. The Parent Trap - Equal Partnership
  • Chapter 4. Come Close, Go Away - Interdependent Relationship
  • Chapter 5. The Blame Game and the Shame Spiral - Ownership and Respect
  • How to Survive an Affair
  • Chapter 6. Testing, Testing, 1, 2, 3 - Profound Trust
  • Chapter 7. Grow Apart - Grow Together
  • Chapter 8. The Owner's Manual
  • 3 Things You Can Do Today for an Instant Shift in Your Relationship
  • Afterword
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Published
  • September 15, 2015
Publisher
  • William Morrow Paperbacks
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