Concepts
- Co-Commitment
- A conscious partnership built on mutual honesty, full responsibility for one's own feelings, and genuine support for each partner's growth — contrasted with codependency.
- Nine Traps of Unconscious Loving
- Predictable patterns (including withdrawal, projection, power struggles, and numbing out) that keep couples locked in cycles of disconnection.
- Seven Steps to Co-Commitment
- A sequential framework for moving a relationship from unconscious, reactive dynamics toward full co-creative partnership.
- Microscopic Truth
- Telling the absolute truth in granular, specific detail rather than speaking in generalizations; a foundation of honest communication in the Hendricks model.
- Unconscious Agreements
- Hidden deals made (often in childhood) about how relationships should work that silently drive conflict and resentment in adult partnerships.
Chapters
- Foreword
- Prologue
- Part One
- Chapter 1. Conscious Loving - The Joruney In Brief
- Chapter 2. The Moment When Unconscious Loving Begins
- Chapter 3. The Nine Traps Of Unconscious Loving
- Chapter 4. The Seven Steps To Co-Commitment
- Chapter 5. The Only Problem You Need To Solve In A Co-Committed Relationship
- Chapter 6. A New Method Of Resolving Conflict
- Chapter 7. Co-Committed Strategies For Communicatin And handling Difficult Emotions
- Chapter 8. How To Keep The Past From Intruding On The Present
- Chapter 9. What To Do When You Feel Stuck
- Conclusion. Envisioning A New World Of Intimacy
- Part Two
- The Co-Commitment Program - Activities For Transforming Your Relationship
Rating
Topics
- Co-Commitment, Co-Creativity, Codependency, Unconscious Agreement, Unconscious Loving, Unconscious Deals, Childhood Wounds, Choice Point, Childhood Trauma, Adult Dysfunction, Parent Trap, Withdrawal, Projection, Numbing Out, Power Struggle, Commitment, Self-Love, Core Feelings, Core Beliefs, Microscopic Truth, Disguised Intentions, Positive Energy, Worry Thoughts, Arguments, Broken Agreements, Making Space, Taking Space, Nonsexual Touch, Conflict Resolution, Difficult Emotions, Distorted Thinking, Boundaries, I-Statements, Trauma, Intimacy, Communication Skills, Healing Dialogue, Love Yourself, Getting Present, Feeling Map, Choice Map, Keeping Agreements, Safe Space, Whole Body Listening
Published
- January 1, 1992
Publisher
- Bantam