Concepts
- Emotional Bids
- Any attempt you or your partner makes for connection, the key is to move towards your partner to answer their bid in a positive way.
- Reticular Activating System
- Filtering system between your consious and sub-consious mind, that allows you to notice or ignore information from your environment.
- Negativity Bias
- The brain's tendency to register and hold onto negative experiences more strongly than positive ones, causing partners to notice what is wrong far more readily than what is right.
- SACMedcalf's acronym for the three communication patterns that kill connection -
- Statements that shut down dialogue, Accusations that put partners on defense, and Criticism that attacks character rather than behavior.
- Intention of Kindness
- Medcalf's practice of deliberately choosing, before any interaction, to lead with kindness rather than complaint, treating it as a decision rather than a feeling that must arise on its own.
Chapters
- Acknowledgements
- Introduction
- Chapter 1. This is the Last Relationship Book You'll Ever Have to Read
- Chapter 2. Just How Committed Are You?
- Chapter 3. Key 1 - Self-Awareness
- Chapter 4. Key 2 - The Importance of Answering Bids
- Chapter 5. Key 3 - Set an Intention of Kindness
- Chapter 6. Key 4 - Be Vulnerable (It's not as scary as you think)
- Chapter 7. Key 5 - Your Lizard Brain and Why You Need to Say "Yes" First
- Chapter 8. Key 6 - Ask Questions and Don't SAC Your Relationship
- Chapter 9. Key 7 - Bring Your Sexy Back
- Chapter 10. Key 8 - Be Positive
- Chapter 11. Key 9 - Keeping Score in Your Relationship Makes You Lose
- Chapter 12. Key 10 - Forgiveness
- Conclusion
Rating
Topics
Published
- December 21, 2018
Publisher
- Independently Published
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