The Mindful Couple

52 Weekly Strategies To Real Love and Connection
By Craig Lambert,Debbie Lambert

Structured as one practice per week for a full year, this book by Craig and Debbie Lambert covers fifty-two skills across communication, conflict, intimacy, romance, and money. Each strategy is drawn from the authors' experience as couples therapists and is kept short and specific, so partners can work through the material gradually without needing to overhaul their relationship all at once.

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Concepts
  • Fifteen-Second Connection
    A brief but intentional daily ritual of physical or emotional contact designed to maintain a felt sense of closeness between partners.
  • Money Scripts
    The unconscious beliefs and stories about money absorbed in childhood that silently drive financial conflict and decision-making in adult relationships.
  • Love Languages
    The five ways people primarily give and receive love (Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, Physical Touch); learning a partner's language reduces misread intentions.
  • Relationship Vision
    A shared, explicitly articulated picture of what both partners want their relationship to become, used as a guiding reference for choices and commitments.
  • Repair
    The intentional acts that restore connection after conflict or distance, ranging from a simple apology to a structured conversation that addresses what went wrong.
Chapters
  • Introduction. More Connection, More Love, More Joy
  • Part 1. Mastering Communication
  • 1. Learn How to Empathize
  • 2. Communicate Love Nonverbally
  • 3. Create a Relationship Vision
  • 4. Get Together Weekly
  • 5. Build Trust
  • 6. De-stress the Holidays
  • 7. Tread Delicately Around Weight Issues
  • 8. Make Requests - They Get You Further Than Demands
  • 9. Lifestyle Change - Go It Alone, Sometimes
  • 10. Learn Your Love Languages
  • 11. Ritualize Appreciation
  • 12. Balance "Us Time" and "Me Time"
  • 13. Compliment Your Partner Daily
  • 14. Compromising
  • 15. Understand the Roots of Your Partner's Anger
  • 16. Deal with Limiting Beliefs About Your Partner
  • 17. Know the Secret to a Great Relationship
  • Part 2. Managing Conflict
  • 18. Don't Wait Too Long to Seek Outside Help
  • 19. Take Responsibility Instead of Blaming
  • 20. Forget Fairness, Try Generosity
  • 21. Make the Dreaded Financial Conversation Fun
  • 22. Provide Support, Not Solutions
  • 23. Let Go of Your Stories
  • 24. Love Your Lover, Not Your Phone
  • 25. Uncover Your Money Scripts
  • 26. Show Up on Time
  • 27. Be Curious About Your Partner's Perspective
  • 28. Give More to Get More
  • 29. Manage Anger Wisely
  • 30. Never Say Never
  • 31. Learn to Apologize Skillfully
  • 32. Repair
  • 33. Create Solutions for Problem Areas
  • 34. Stop the Cycle of Stonewalling
  • 35. Talk About Money When the Stakes Are Low
  • Part 3. Kindling Intimacy, Sex, and Romance
  • 36. Pay Attention
  • 37. Ask Questions to Create Closeness
  • 38. Do the Fifteen-Second Connection
  • 39. Ask Sex Questions for Better Sex
  • 40. Gaze at Each Other
  • 41. Create More Sexual Compatibility
  • 42. Make Time for Each Other
  • 43. Schedule Sex
  • 44. Touch Each Other
  • 45. Focus on the Positive
  • 46. Keep the Romance Alive
  • 47. Sex Toys - To Use or Not to Use?
  • 48. Make Vacations Romantic
  • 49. Create Relationship Satisfaction While Raising Children
  • 50. Have More Fun Together
  • 51. Keep Your Sex Life Alive
  • 52. Look, and See
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Published
  • November 11, 2019
Publisher
  • Hawk Press
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