Loving Bravely
Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want
By Alexandra H. Solomon
Concepts
- Name-Connect-Choose
- Name asks you to tell your story by identifying and declaring your truth, Connect asks you to attune to yourself and your experience, Choose asks you to take responsibility for how you love today
- Instead of 'You need to...'
- Say 'I feel so...' to tune into the feeling inside you and give it a voice.
- Instead of 'You make me feel...'
- Say 'When you do X, in situation Y, I feel Z' holding the other accountable for their action, giving context, and taking responsibility for your feelings.
- Instead of 'You just don't know...'
- Say 'I feel...' to share your feelings to avoid blame
- Instead of 'Why did you...'
- Say 'What kept you from...' which invites collaboration and discussion
- Instead of 'You should...'
- Say 'I am longing for...' giving a voice to youe unmet need or longing
- Instead of 'You never...'
- Say 'It seems to me that...' or 'It feels to me like...' lets them know you are hurting
- Instead of 'How can I get them to...'
- Label what you really need or want, standing in your vulnerability invites others to do that same
Chapters
- Foreword
- Introduction. The Love Classroom
- Part 1. Self-Reflection
- Lesson 1. Understand Your Past
- Lesson 2. Craft Your Story
- Lesson 3. Awaken to Your Life Today
- Lesson 4. Forge a New Connection
- Lesson 5. Establish Healthy Boundaries
- Part 2. Self-Awareness
- Lesson 6. Embrace Your Unique Love Truths
- Lesson 7. Surrender the Fairy Tale
- Lesson 8. Keep the ASoul in Soulmate
- Lesson 9. Listen to Your Gut
- Lesson 10. Source Your Life
- Part 3. Self-Expression
- Lesson 11. Inhabit Your Body
- Lesson 12. Honor the Space Between
- Lesson 13. Respect the Pause
- Lesson 14. Dig a Little Deeper
- Lesson 15. Build the Cushion
- Part 4. Self-Expansion
- Lesson 16. Practice a Loving "I'm Sorry"
- Lesson 17. Forgive... Again and Again
- Lesson 18. Value Presence
- Lesson 19. Be on Your Own Team
- Lesson 20. Ride the Waves
- Conclusions
- Acknowledgements
- Appendix 1. Trauma
- Appendix 2. How to Find a Therapist
Rating
Topics
- Self-Discovery, Self-Compassion, Self-Awareness, Self-Reflection, Self-Expression, Self-Expandsion, Self-Soothing, Whole Self, Resilience, Boundaries, Porous Boundaries, Rigid Boundaries, Physical Boundaries, Emotional Boundaries, Interdependence, Soulmates, Relational Self-Awareness, Pressing Pause, Fight-or-Flight, Fight-Flight-Freeze, Love Languages, Apologies, Forgiveness, Love Classroom, Brave Love, Name-Connect-Choose, Attachment Styles, Family of Origin, Power of Story, Core Issues, Health Premise, Emotional Blind Spot, Ghosts from Past, Dialectic Approach, Mindfulness, Love Template, Parent Interview, Deepening Compassion, Intimacy, Closeness, Early Idealization, Soulmates, Bodily Truth, Passionate Living, Getting Curious, Self-Aware Sex, Love Your Body, Own Your Pleasure, Linear Conflict Stories, Systemic Conflict Stories, Marriage Hack, Stimulus-Response, Mammalian Brain, Cerebral Cortex, Prefontal Cortex, Pressing Pause, Reactive Breakups, Emotional Reactivity, Love Languages, Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, Physical Touch, Relatioinship Traps, Apologies 101, Forgiveness, Resentment, Value Presence
Published
- February 2, 2017
Publisher
- New Harbinger Publications
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