Hold on to Your N.U.T.s*

The Relationship Manual for Men
By Wayne M. Levine

Wayne Levine built the BetterMen coaching program around the idea that men struggle in relationships primarily because they have not defined their own Non-negotiable, Unalterable Terms—the values and principles they refuse to compromise. The book first guides men through discovering and holding to those terms, then offers eight practical tools for common relational challenges: managing emotions without defensiveness, resisting pointless arguments, taking the lead in romance, and developing honest, trusting friendships with other men.

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Concepts
  • N.U.T.s (Non-negotiable, Unalterable Terms)
    The personal values, standards, and principles a man identifies as core to who he is and refuses to compromise, even under relational pressure.
  • Silencing the Little Boy
    Recognizing and setting aside immature, fear-driven reactions (defensiveness, people-pleasing, sulking) in favor of a mature, grounded response.
  • Be the Rock
    Providing consistent emotional stability and reliability in a relationship rather than being reactive or pulled into drama.
  • Expressing Without Defending
    Sharing your feelings openly without justifying them or seeking approval — a practice that communicates emotional maturity and security.
  • Eight BetterMen Tools
    A practical set of relational skills covering emotion expression, conflict avoidance, romance, listening, and male friendship, built around holding to your N.U.T.s.
Chapters
  • Acknowledgments
  • Introduction. About Hold On to Your N.U.T.s
  • Introduction. How to Use Hold On to Your N.U.T.s
  • Part 1. Your N.U.T.s
  • What Are N.U.T.s?
  • Sample N.U.T.s
  • Finding Your N.U.T.s
  • Maintaining a Firm Grasp of Your N.U.T.s
  • Applying Your N.U.T.s
  • Part 2. The 8 BetterMen Tools
  • Tool No. 1. Silence the Little Boy
  • Tool No. 2. Express but Don't Defend Your Feelings
  • Tool No. 3. Cooperate Without Compromising Your N.U.T.s
  • Tool No. 4. Run the Sex and Romance Departments
  • Tool No. 5. Be the Rock
  • Tool No. 6. Don't Argue
  • Tool No. 7. Listen
  • Tool No. 8. Develop Trusting Relationships with Men
  • Afterword. A Few Final Thoughts on Becoming a Better Man
  • About BetterMen
  • About the Author
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  • Better Men
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