Concepts
- Dickery
- The author's term for self-focused, contemptuous, and defensive behaviors rooted in introjected rage and insecure attachment that consistently damage relationships and backfire on the person using them.
- Introjected Rage
- Internalized anger from early wounds that gets unconsciously directed outward as contempt, criticism, or controlling behavior toward others.
- Righteous Dickery
- The self-justifying flavor of harmful behavior where a person believes their mistreatment of others is warranted, fueled by victimhood or a sense of moral superiority.
- Emotional Intoxication
- The addictive quality of reactive, contemptuous behavior — the temporary rush of power or relief it provides — which keeps people returning to it despite long-term costs.
- Accountability Without Self-Dickery
- The practice of owning one's harmful behavior honestly without swinging into self-punishment or self-pity, a prerequisite for genuine change and reconnection.
Chapters
- Preface. Being a Dick Is the Self-Destruct Button
- Introduction. Saying Hello
- Part 1. Sticking It to Ourselves and the World
- Chapter 1. What's Being a Dick All About?
- Chapter 2. Righteous Dickery - It's You Against the World
- Chapter 3. Dickery Is a Mood-ALtering Drug
- Chapter 4. Punching Bag
- Part 2. Dickery Is Trickery
- Chapter 5. Everyday Dickery
- Chapter 6. Other People'e Dickery
- Chapter 7. Patrolling Dickery
- Part 3. How to Quit
- Chapter 8. You're Already Okay
- Chapter 9. Don't Be a Dick to Yourself
- Chapter 10. Checkmate on Dickery
- Part 4. Dicks in Recovery
- Chapter 11. Meeting Manipulators with Compassion
- Chapter 12. Fear of Losing Your Dickishness
- Chapter 13. Yippee I'm Not a Dick!
- Conclusion. Both the Cause and Cure
Rating
Topics
- Masculinity, Dickery, Narcissist, Projection, Acting Out, Internal Agreements, Self-Righteousness, Self-Delusion, Self-Pity, Self-Defense, Turd Hurler, Victimhood, Dominating, Tyrannizing, Over-Managing, Self-Defeating, Introjected Rage, Insecure Attachment, Character Defects, Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, Stonewalling, Catharsis, Hit Pause, Take Inventory, Expressing Feelings, Accountability, Ordering, Directing, Warning, Threatening, Moralizing, Preaching, Advising, Giving Solutions, Persuading, Arguing, Judging, Blaming, Praising, Agreeing, Name Calling, Ridiculing, Analyzing, Diagnosing, Reassuring, Sympathizing, Questioning, Probing, Diverting, Sarcasm, Vulnerability, Emotional Intoxication, Social Anxiety, Anxious Apartness, Insecurity, Need-Meeting, Decision-Making, Emotional-Openness, Emotional Distance
Published
- November 19, 2019
Publisher
- Central Recovery Press